“My girlfriend is saying she’s gonna leave me. I’ve never put hands on her, not once. But… Well... I did shout. I didn’t want to… I just get so damned angry sometimes…”
Anger is a normal part of human experience. However, if it becomes excessive it can cause serious problems. It is an increasingly common reason for people to seek counselling therapy. If this seems like something you have experienced, talking with a qualified professional would be helpful for you.
Often there is an overlap between anger and something else such as lower self-esteem and depression. This is because anger is commonly a secondary emotion; a feeling that arises as a result of another feeling. Usually one which might bring shame such as helplessness or being made to feel small. The acting out of anger as a way of dealing with this can cause serious issues.
People seeking treatment for anger management are often those who experience physical expressions of anger beyond the usual frustrations and irritability that can be felt, at times, by all of us. Responding to these feelings of anger can sometimes lead to aggressive and violent behaviour. Many people seeking anger management treatment are facing a form of life crisis, which has been caused by the impact of their angry outbursts, either at home or in wider society.
If you are having trouble with controlling your anger and you believe it may be harming other people physically or emotionally, then we can offer a coordinated personal treatment programme to help you manage the physical and emotional symptoms of anger problems. This starts with understanding the anger. Where does it come from, what causes it? Is it just anger or is the anger lying on top of something else? Once we understand that we design a way initially to deal with the symptom; coping with the anger when it occurs. Afterwards we work on the cause. As whatever is causing the anger decreases, so too will the feelings of rage.
Talking with a qualified therapist will make you feel better.