I have been working with men, both in terms of mental health and coaching, for over 10 years now.
In that time, an ever-increasing group of clients have said to me that they felt it was getting more difficult to be men, that they thought society did not care about them and perhaps expected too much.
I have had clients tell me they do not know who to turn to; that there does not seem to be any specific help for them and few charities or support groups to reach out to.
I have also had clients tell me they were worried it would not be masculine to ask for help, or that the people who they ask for help from might tell them it is their masculinity that is the problem!
Men experience the full spectrum of mental health issues not tied to their gender or masculinity.
Yet they may experience these in different ways. I have had clients tell me they find their experience, values, expectations (of self, of life, from others), goals, approach to relationships, measurement of success, communication style, needs, sources of pleasure, are at least in part, defined by their being male and that they have struggled to engage with a psychotherapy or coaching profession which does not seem to cater for their experience of the world as men.
It can be a confusing time to be a man. In the era of advocacy there does not seem to be much support for them nor a universally accepted, consistent account of how they should behave or even what it is to be a man. As nearly 80% of suicides are male, this is a serious issue.
I have a special clinical interest in men's issues. Like all my clients, I deal with each man as an individual, trusting that any definition of man and masculinity that they agree with is valid for them and any goals they might have are intrinsically worthy and deserving of support.
If you feel like your experience of mental health or life is influenced by being a man, you might benefit from talking to a qualified professional who is experienced with counselling such situations.